"Be kind, for everyone you
meet is fighting a hard battle." Scottish preacher, Ian Maclaren, said that in
the 1890's and it still rings true today. During the Civil War a preacher by the
name of Joseph Parker said "Preach to the suffering, and you will never lack a
congregation. There is a broken heart in every pew."
The Apostle Paul in the
first century expressed the same sentiment this way, "Be kind to one another,
tender hearted, forgiving each other, even as God also in Christ forgave you."
(Ephesians 4:30)
Every day we meet people who are hurting: going through a divorce, lonely because of a loss, a loved one in hospice care, dealing with Alzheimer's or cancer, loss of job, terminal illness, rebellious child, financial distress, anxiety, worry, fear and on and on.
Some people are at a loss
of what to say or do when someone is hurting. My hope is that the list below
will help you when you encounter someone who is hurting.
-Well-spoken words. Please no spiritual
platitudes like "everything is going to be alright." In a crisis, discussing
theology is ill-timed. Speak in a calm, reassuring voice of love, not theology.
Listening goes a long way at the beginning of a crisis. Our words can be
helpful, but at times silence might be even more powerful.
-Show love. Bring a meal to their
house. Mow the lawn. Help with chores. Appropriate touch can minister to them as
well.
-Be ready for the "why" question. This
question may not come at first but when it comes, don't assume you know the
answer. Listen. Admit you don't know why. Affirm that it's OK to ask that
question and don't make them feel it is wrong to ask it.
-Pray. Praying together and out loud is
powerful. Call on God for His grace, comfort, mercy and peace.
Prayer puts the focus back on God.
-Share a scripture. God's word is
powerful and alive (Hebrews 4:12). It is like a soothing salve on a deep wound.
Here are some of my
favorites:
Psalm
34:7
Isaiah
40:11; 28-31; 41:10, 13
Philippians
4:6-7
2
Thessalonians 3:16
John
14:27
-Follow up. Check in on them every few
days. Ask them if there is anything they need.
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